I was chatting with my friend and his two children studying in 1st and 3rd standard were engrossed in their own world. I was observing their activities since half hour doing home-work then arranging books and notes, preparing school bag for the next day, it was being Sunday. Just by glancing she could manage her both kids silently. I was mesmerized and wondered how many moms can handle kids in such a balanced manner! Frankly speaking kids are full of energy and willingness to do their tasks but we out of our protective attitudes help them fearing their failure. When we do not let them do anything on their own how come they would become self reliant? All love self reliance especially kids love to as they want to be recognized as an individual and get appreciation. Our job becomes easy in this passion to gain stability and responsibility with their own choice.
Self reliance is not a one day practice, step by step kids can be taught to be self reliant. A gift from parents to the children to be nurtured. As a parent we tend to over protect our kids at every step which many a times proves to be against their self reliance.
When a child starts to walk as a toddler, note how many times falls down yet ever ready to try again that's due to the muscular growth, same way kids try to do tasks when they are getting the inner stimulation to perform on their own. Little efforts though, it's a source of immense pleasure and confidence for them. Our guidance is a must and much expected thing without overpowering their efforts. Compliments play a very vital role in shaping up their confidence levels so be generous in compliments on small achievements.
When kids go to kindergarten school as a teacher I observed their disability in holding pencil with a proper hold to write being new activity. Parents tend to help making the kid's job easy. Aren't we training them to become dependent early? Any work done by a kid would be imperfect then gradually the rectifications come and finally they feel proud to show their ability in doing the tasks successfully on their own, isn't that a great feeling for us too?
Never allow kids homework to be done by someone else. If children get this small help they tend to become lazy and do search someone to complete their jobs thus in future they learn to procrastinate things to be done with a lack in the sense of responsibility. Why make the kids irresponsible by doing such mistakes?
Ask them to arrange books and notes, prepare the bag according to time table, fold dresses and arrange in shelves, eat without scattering and spilling around, wash hands when come to dining table, clean the room, help the pets eat on time, water the plants, keep the news paper arranged at a place, keep shoes and socks properly, write in a note and read their tasks done aloud. Compliment to boost their enthusiasm levels. Small things do great wonders in the long run and as days pass by we can see a self reliant child doing his chores with ease without any difficulty just because we helped them gain practice and get perfect.
On a day when with family we plan outing, kids get ready with enthusiasm but the dresses mostly are chosen by parents. Allow to choose the dresses so that they enjoy doing on their own, whereas if we give them dresses of our choice their face dampens. Guide them but do not impose your choices on them. Their confidence level gets low.
Encourage the kids take decisions on their own. Sometimes just give imaginary situations and check how they respond to when given a task and how determined they seem to take decisions to check their confidence level. In emergency situations or maybe a critical one kids won't panic but think wisely to come out of the risk.
Failure is the best thing when it comes to learning perfectly, without making mistakes it's almost impossible to gain knowledge as well a strong confident idea. Let them fail, be a guide as kids are expecting from you much more positives.
Self reliance is not a one day practice, step by step kids can be taught to be self reliant. A gift from parents to the children to be nurtured. As a parent we tend to over protect our kids at every step which many a times proves to be against their self reliance.
When a child starts to walk as a toddler, note how many times falls down yet ever ready to try again that's due to the muscular growth, same way kids try to do tasks when they are getting the inner stimulation to perform on their own. Little efforts though, it's a source of immense pleasure and confidence for them. Our guidance is a must and much expected thing without overpowering their efforts. Compliments play a very vital role in shaping up their confidence levels so be generous in compliments on small achievements.
When kids go to kindergarten school as a teacher I observed their disability in holding pencil with a proper hold to write being new activity. Parents tend to help making the kid's job easy. Aren't we training them to become dependent early? Any work done by a kid would be imperfect then gradually the rectifications come and finally they feel proud to show their ability in doing the tasks successfully on their own, isn't that a great feeling for us too?
Never allow kids homework to be done by someone else. If children get this small help they tend to become lazy and do search someone to complete their jobs thus in future they learn to procrastinate things to be done with a lack in the sense of responsibility. Why make the kids irresponsible by doing such mistakes?
Ask them to arrange books and notes, prepare the bag according to time table, fold dresses and arrange in shelves, eat without scattering and spilling around, wash hands when come to dining table, clean the room, help the pets eat on time, water the plants, keep the news paper arranged at a place, keep shoes and socks properly, write in a note and read their tasks done aloud. Compliment to boost their enthusiasm levels. Small things do great wonders in the long run and as days pass by we can see a self reliant child doing his chores with ease without any difficulty just because we helped them gain practice and get perfect.
On a day when with family we plan outing, kids get ready with enthusiasm but the dresses mostly are chosen by parents. Allow to choose the dresses so that they enjoy doing on their own, whereas if we give them dresses of our choice their face dampens. Guide them but do not impose your choices on them. Their confidence level gets low.
Encourage the kids take decisions on their own. Sometimes just give imaginary situations and check how they respond to when given a task and how determined they seem to take decisions to check their confidence level. In emergency situations or maybe a critical one kids won't panic but think wisely to come out of the risk.
Failure is the best thing when it comes to learning perfectly, without making mistakes it's almost impossible to gain knowledge as well a strong confident idea. Let them fail, be a guide as kids are expecting from you much more positives.
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