Fear is a commonly seen feeling in almost everyone apart from age and gender. How fear is induced initially? Mothers are the main culprit in introducing fear to control a baby! Gradually this fear grows and many a children get locked in this fear trap failing to become a positive person! Once a baby grows and wants to explore and venture on it'sown the mom finds trouble in controlling thus she tries to control him by unseen fear inducing things like a monster, thief, animal, darkness so that the baby obeys to mom. As and when the child understands it's not real may overcome but if fails in understanding then the fear grip is stronger and many a times permanent too. many children do not dare go out after sunset as they find the fear overtaking the logic behind their fearful attitudes.
Fear can be of many types. Some may fear to mingle with new and strange people, some may fear public appearance, some of failure, some of rejection, some may find fear gripping mind in public places or when moving with opposite sex people, some of new ventures, some of being alone. Such type of weird things make a mind cripple like and unable to explore own potentials and do something successfully.
How to remove fear from a child's mind is obviously a challenging task. If we ignore the small things a child feels fearful of later the fear would be an obstacle in everything and may evolve around like a cocoon! being logical is a good thing so explain to the child everything logically thus easy to be accepted. Let the child explore on own many a things to get the bold attitude. Don't make the child hinder or lag behind. After a certain period of mental growth the child may feel left out or inferiority complex thus an introvert to hide the inability. Encourage child for every small thing done individually for bringing out the best efforts! Applauds can do wonders!
In a primary class a particular child refused to repeat things being taught and made learning a complicated issue. teachers struggled to train him badly. When I joined and observed it seemed a very funny thing to expect whatever being taught within a snapshot or at the earliest time decided by the teachers. I used to come half hour earlier than the class time and make him comfortable first. then ask to repeat whatever I said. When done profusely I appreciated him with a very good, well done remarks which made him happy and proud of his intellect. Gradually he started to learn but when questioned by the teachers maybe he feared due to strict attitudes or mannerisms again he would be mum. I was ushered to be present on the spot where the oral exams were conducted. Once with me he could feel at ease and tried to say though not clear. I encouraged but the correspondent signaled me to be aloof. Somehow he managed to utter a few words and then remarks were given of not being clear. In this whole procedure the child was in first standard and a slow learner going through speech therapies as parents feared of autism. This school promised to follow montessori teaching methods and asked to admit knowing well his learning inefficiency. fear of a person can cripple a child mentally thus make sure your child is bold and strong minded to face such things outside!
Once I trained the kids of 2 nd standard orally without any book or notes to write or read. addition was the subject. I asked how much we get when we added 4 with 5 and the prompt answers were 9. I selected a boy not so sure and asked the same question , he said 9 reluctantly. Again when asked how much, he replied 9, on my questioning little sternly he started to stammer and answered confusingly sometimes 8 and sometimes 9. I just kept on repeating the numbers and he kept on changing his answer. The correspondent mam called me loudly and asked, "why you are confusing the child Neelima?" I replied with a cool mind,"Mam am not confusing, am training my students to be sure of their answers despite of several times doubtful ways to question." Practical teaching has more impacts than just taught on boards or notes.
Every parent pampers the child but when the child goes to school automatically a nervousness overtakes intellectual abilities and after a certain phase the child learns to sustain his or her identity in a classroom with changing faces of the trainers. Imbibing good values is not enough in modern times but confidence too must be injected.
I get grown up candidates for communication classes. Some fail to perform exceptionally thus get admission in catering or any other courses. When after attending a few sessions they talk their confidence level is obviously marked by everyone without any special efforts with practical sessions of personality development. A child may not be very cute or chubby or always fair in complexion but must have sharp observation sense and certainly self confidence with a determination to overcome small hurdles when out of the safety zone of home and parents and we need train kids practically.
Fear can be of many types. Some may fear to mingle with new and strange people, some may fear public appearance, some of failure, some of rejection, some may find fear gripping mind in public places or when moving with opposite sex people, some of new ventures, some of being alone. Such type of weird things make a mind cripple like and unable to explore own potentials and do something successfully.
How to remove fear from a child's mind is obviously a challenging task. If we ignore the small things a child feels fearful of later the fear would be an obstacle in everything and may evolve around like a cocoon! being logical is a good thing so explain to the child everything logically thus easy to be accepted. Let the child explore on own many a things to get the bold attitude. Don't make the child hinder or lag behind. After a certain period of mental growth the child may feel left out or inferiority complex thus an introvert to hide the inability. Encourage child for every small thing done individually for bringing out the best efforts! Applauds can do wonders!
In a primary class a particular child refused to repeat things being taught and made learning a complicated issue. teachers struggled to train him badly. When I joined and observed it seemed a very funny thing to expect whatever being taught within a snapshot or at the earliest time decided by the teachers. I used to come half hour earlier than the class time and make him comfortable first. then ask to repeat whatever I said. When done profusely I appreciated him with a very good, well done remarks which made him happy and proud of his intellect. Gradually he started to learn but when questioned by the teachers maybe he feared due to strict attitudes or mannerisms again he would be mum. I was ushered to be present on the spot where the oral exams were conducted. Once with me he could feel at ease and tried to say though not clear. I encouraged but the correspondent signaled me to be aloof. Somehow he managed to utter a few words and then remarks were given of not being clear. In this whole procedure the child was in first standard and a slow learner going through speech therapies as parents feared of autism. This school promised to follow montessori teaching methods and asked to admit knowing well his learning inefficiency. fear of a person can cripple a child mentally thus make sure your child is bold and strong minded to face such things outside!
Once I trained the kids of 2 nd standard orally without any book or notes to write or read. addition was the subject. I asked how much we get when we added 4 with 5 and the prompt answers were 9. I selected a boy not so sure and asked the same question , he said 9 reluctantly. Again when asked how much, he replied 9, on my questioning little sternly he started to stammer and answered confusingly sometimes 8 and sometimes 9. I just kept on repeating the numbers and he kept on changing his answer. The correspondent mam called me loudly and asked, "why you are confusing the child Neelima?" I replied with a cool mind,"Mam am not confusing, am training my students to be sure of their answers despite of several times doubtful ways to question." Practical teaching has more impacts than just taught on boards or notes.
Every parent pampers the child but when the child goes to school automatically a nervousness overtakes intellectual abilities and after a certain phase the child learns to sustain his or her identity in a classroom with changing faces of the trainers. Imbibing good values is not enough in modern times but confidence too must be injected.
I get grown up candidates for communication classes. Some fail to perform exceptionally thus get admission in catering or any other courses. When after attending a few sessions they talk their confidence level is obviously marked by everyone without any special efforts with practical sessions of personality development. A child may not be very cute or chubby or always fair in complexion but must have sharp observation sense and certainly self confidence with a determination to overcome small hurdles when out of the safety zone of home and parents and we need train kids practically.
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